August 26, 2005

With The Moms

I have the chance, each Thursday, to meet with a group of parents (about 5-20 moms, and me, sometimes there's a dad with one of the moms, but not usually). We talk about which diapers are the best, how much our babies are growing, sleeping, pooping, talking, and learning, and we generally just spend time with each other. It's a great resource for helping parents from becoming isolated, and I'm glad that I've been able to be a part of it.

Recently though, I've noticed a strange trend. I'm being asked for parenting advice, quite a bit, from some of the moms that I haven't really spent much time with. Now, I'm all for sharing, but how did I give them the impression that I know anything that they don't? Are they mystified by my masculine shoulders, and it causes them to look upon me and my slung baby as an oracle? Do they secretly wish they had as much body hair as me, so they could be like a teddy bear to their babies?

Keleigh pointed out that it's probably (in part) because we now have two young children, and since we've been through the early stuff once, and we're going through it again, we must know something. And while I do feel more confident, I can't say that if I had Marion's first year to go through again that I'd be able to put her to bed any quicker, or get her to sleep any sounder.

I'm happy to share the things that I think have worked for me, but I don't want anyone to feel like I really know what I'm talking about. I'm just a dad, just a parent like you. We're all going through the same things.

That's what really helps me; knowing that their are plenty of good parents that are having the same difficulties that I am. It's hard to raise children, but we can do it. Dads can do it, moms can do it. And we're all in it together.


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